Monday, October 31, 2011

Ghost Stories


Do you believe in ghosts? A recent study on the news indicated about 40% of Americans do. 59% of those claim to have had an 'experience' with the supernatural.

As you know, I believe that I have met the Angel of Death (aka Ray Liotta). I believe in the afterlife though I have no idea what it might entail. Is there a heaven? Hell? I really don't know, I haven't yet made it that far. I do believe there are ghosts and I believe I've experienced one first hand (twice), though I didn't actually see him.


My wife and I moved to the tiny town of Croton (where the hell is Croton), Ohio about 15 years ago. The home we moved into was old. Really old. Easily 125 years old and probably 150+. It was small, relatively plain on the outside and decent enough on the inside. The land it sat on was beautiful. A lake with a dam in the back yard. The lake, as I understand, was used to fill the steam engines of the old locomotives that ran through the area. You could still see old railroad ties in the front yard. I liked living there, but sometimes felt uneasy.

A few years after moving in our twins were born and I guess that's when things started picking up. The first of my two encounters was somewhat indirect. The entire family left the house in the early afternoon. When we came home that night every (and I mean every) light in the house was turned on. It is common for us to leave one or two lights on when we leave but my wife and I know there was no way every one of them was on when we left (including the basement). The first thing we did before walking in was to call my sister-in-law to see if perhaps she had stopped by while we were gone and maybe left some lights on? No, was her response. We then cautiously entered house. We checked all of the doors and windows and there was no indication that anyone had come into the home. Weird.

The next incident came at night. My wife and I had settled into bed for the evening. Our bedroom in this house was huge. As is typical in a master bedroom we had our bed along one wall with side tables on each side and lamps on each of them. Being out in the country there was no outside light coming into the room once all of our lights were turned off. I had just drifted off to sleep when I felt a 'presence' standing over me. I started awake and the lamp on my side of the bed was lit. There was no one else in the room except my sleeping wife. I woke her up and asked her if she had turned on my light. Groggily she said no, turned over and went back to sleep. Needless to say it took me a while to fall back to sleep. Scary.

Now these two incidents might not be enough for the average person to believe. Let me enlighten you about my son. He sees dead people. But it's not like Sixth Sense, they don't ask him for anything and they aren't scary looking. Just normal and honestly (according to him) they don't talk much. The ghost in our house in Croton was named John Thomas. He was kind of tall, had blond hair and wore old clothes.


After several years living there we moved. We wanted something in a better school district and a little closer to work. We found a house in Sunbury and moved in. It was a new build and there were no ghosts, at first. Sadly, my wife's father passed away shortly before we moved out. Sam saw Grandpa Doc a couple of times before we moved. 

We moved again, finding something a little less expensive and still in the same great school district. This next house was old, but not nearly as old as the home in Croton (where is that again?). I would guess the old portion was built in the early 1900's and the addition maybe 40 years later. I felt pretty good about this house, after all it was the old parsonage for the church it sits in front of. Grandpa Doc followed us, we found out because he kept moving some of the personal possessions of his that my wife had. She would grill the kids about moving these things and they all insisted that they weren't doing it. She finally just said, "Dad, if you are here please quit moving your stuff. I will keep a close eye on it and make sure it's safe." After she did that, the objects quit being misplaced.

My son informed us shortly after moving in that a little girl lived here. Her name was Courtney. She liked to play tricks on the kids. She would knock on the bathroom door while they were taking showers. One time she scared our son by standing at the foot of his bed wearing a mask.


Now, I personally have never experienced anything directly with Grandpa Doc or Courtney. But here's the one that gets me... My grandfather died a few years back. He lived down in Florida and my children never had an opportunity to meet him. I kept a picture of him and Grandma hanging in my office. Because my children didn't know him we chose not to tell them about his passing, however the day after he passed my son told us that an old man was standing in my office staring at that picture. When we asked him what he looked like, he said he looked like the man in the picture. The funeral was held here in Columbus, the kids did not attend. The following morning we met my parents for breakfast at Bob Evans. All during breakfast my son had an uneasy, funny look on his face. After breakfast we asked him what was wrong. He told us the old guy standing in our house the other day just stood beside Grandpa Tom (my dad, Grandpa's son) the entire time we were there. For several weeks after the funeral my wife and I would detect a hint of cigarette smoke in the house, but it only happened when we were watching Law & Order. That show happened to be my grandfathers favorite show and he was a heavy smoker from the age of 16 until he died. Was he there looking over us? Like I said, my kids didn't know him and we weren't on speaking terms at the time he passed. I honestly don't know.

These incidents viewed individually would not be enough to convince me, but when you put them all together I feel very positive that there is more for us after death. Is there a transition period that we get to hang out and check in on the loved ones we left behind? Play tricks on people we don't know just to get attention? What does the afterlife look like or entail? I don't have these answers but I also don't despair about my demise on this Earth.

Sunday, October 30, 2011

Poison Nut (aka Buckeye) Greatest Game?

Last nights Ohio State vs. Wisconsin game was amazing. They blew a lead in the last few minutes only to take it back on a Hail Mary in the last minute of the game. (Ironically, it was the second Hail Mary in as many weeks to take down what had been the previously undefeated Badgers, who lost to Michigan State the previous week.) It was definitely a lot of fun to watch and a great gift for my birthday (which was today - a friend told me that's what they got me this year). After the game I saw a few posts from my friends saying it was the greatest game they have witnessed/seen/experienced. While I think this was a great game, I'm not ready to declare it 'the greatest'. Here is a short list of some of the greatest OSU games I've seen in my lifetime (in order):

1. 2002 National Championship Game vs. Miami University. Double overtime, hardcore defense highlighted by the final drive of the game. Miami, thanks to a penalty, had 1st and goal at the 2. OSU stuffed them on three straight plays. The fourth was an attempted pass that was rushed thanks to the pass rush game of the OSU defense. I was literally on my knees the entire OT. Final score: 31-24.

2. 2006 Ohio State (#1) vs. Michigan (#2). The rivalry is known as "The Game", this was clearly The Game of Games and was dubbed "The Game of the Century" (kinda silly given we were only 6 years into the new century, but whatever). This match-up went against expectations and became a high scoring back and forth exchange (both teams had incredible defenses going into the game). While Michigan only had the lead once (at the beginning of the game) they were never really out of it. Final score: 42-39

3. 1995 Ohio State vs. Notre Dame. At the time this game set the record attendance for 'The Shoe' at 95,537. One of those fans in attendance - yours truly! Our seats were right above the tunnel that OSU ran out of. They all came out and were bunched just outside of the tunnel. Right there in front of me was Eddie George. My brother and I started screaming "Eddie, Eddie, Eddie". He turned around, gave us a smile and a wave and then with those freakishly large calves ran out onto the field. Goosebumps just thinking about it. This team was stacked: the aforementioned Eddie George, Bobby Hoying, Terry Glenn, Mike Vrable, Shawn Springs, Orlando Pace and many others. On the opposing side - The Legendary Lou Holtz. Notre Dame jumped up early and then the Bucks poured it on to a crushing 45-26 victory. Hands down the loudest 'anything' I've ever experienced and will hopefully never forget!

4. 2002 Ohio State vs. Purdue. Back to the National Championship season. This game stands out also because the entire season and any hope at a chance of a shot at the championship looked lost. Ohio State's offense was dismal in this game mustering only 3 points. Fortunately The Boilermakers had only managed 6. With less than 3 minutes on the clock OSU was facing a 3rd and 14 at midfield, given the lack of offense the chances of a win looked bleak. Craig Krenzel, the genius (seriously, he has a degree in molecular genetics!) completed a pass that was 1 yard short of a first down. Completely deflated because Tressel Ball was in full effect I thought for sure he would go for a near impossible 54-yard field goal. I mean, it was Nugent kicking and everything but still... Instead Tress shocked us all and went for it on 4th and 1 and 37 yards out. Instead of Krenzel throwing a safe short crossing pass he went for it all and connected with Michael Jenkins to put the Bucks up 10-6. The staunch defense wrapped up the win with a Gamble interception. Whew!

5. 2011 Ohio State vs. Wisconsin - maybe. Right now I can't think of another big game off the top of my head. This one was great because lets face it, The Buckeyes are down this season. Amid all of the turmoil with scandals, the loss of Jim Tressel and a seemingly inept offense being called by Jim Bollman, there wasn't a lot of hope for a win last night against what seemed like an incredible Badger team. The fact that the Buckeyes had the lead through most of the game, only to lose it in the last minutes of the fourth quarter and all seemed lost. We hadn't seen any 'big' moments at any time earlier this season. There was no reason to hope for a comeback, yet comeback they did. Braxton Miller, who has been known to move the ball more with his feet, had an open lane to run yet pulled up at the very last moment and heaved a Hail Mary. Devin Smith (who?) caught the ball in the end zone. 'The Shoe' erupted again in what I can only imagine was a near ear splitting roar. After the final seconds ticked off the clock the crowd rushed the field. An improbable victory on Home Coming weekend was clinched from the jaws of defeat. Final score: 33-29

What do you think about this list? Do you have a game that deserves to be here in place of one of these? If so, tell me about it in the comments below.

Friday, October 21, 2011

Thanksgiving!

Today is the 3 year anniversary for my wife being diagnosed with breast cancer. Well, that's not exactly true, this is the day she stopped working and started her grueling trek towards defeating that ugly beast. Coincidentally, today is the 2 year anniversary that I went into the hospital with H1N1.

So to look ahead to my favorite holiday of the year, here is an abbreviated list of what I am thankful for:


  • My beautiful wife who made sure she was by my side every day I was down and who became a single mother for six months and kicked ass doing it
  • My three amazing children who did their best to be strong while we were hurting
  • My mom who spent a week of doing nothing but sitting at my side in the nursing home
  • My boss and co-workers who were understanding of my needs when I returned to work
  • My church family who provided spiritual support and gifts of food and house cleaning when it wasn't easy for us to do it ourselves, they even once took my children to the movies so they could feel normal even if just for a few hours
  • The doctors and nurses who fought for our lives either through surgery for my wife or monitoring my life while I was in the coma
  • The cheeseburger that was my first meal after not eating for 4 months
  • My brother who brought me shredded garlic chicken from Hunan House
  • The physical therapists who taught me to walk again
  • The physical therapists who came to my house after I came home to get me on my feet
  • The leg/foot brace that was fitted and allows me to walk without fear of falling
  • The nurse that gave us gas cards to offset our cost for traveling from north of Columbus to the west side for treatments
  • The specialists who administered the chemotherapy that saved my wife's life
  • The person who dedicated her life to making women feel beautiful on the outside after they've lost their hair
  • The people who took an afternoon to help my wife feel whole again
  • My family, friends and co-workers that took the time to stop by and see me in the nursing home, where without visitors feels like a very lonely place
  • Everyone who took time to send a get well card
  • Everyone who has taken the time to express their love and support to our family in the past few years
  • Everyone who continues the fight to find a cure for breast cancer and all cancers
  • Skype that allows me to see my parents who are 1000 miles away
  • Every day that I get to wake up and see my wife and kids
Even if you haven't had a traumatic incident (or two) in your life, I urge you to look around and recognize the beauty of the people, places and things that are in your life. Know that your life is a miracle and appreciate every day you get to participate.

Friday, October 7, 2011

iCon (or I Blame Jason)


Steve Jobs passed away on Wednesday. When I heard the news I felt supremely sad. A friend of mine asked me if I was going to write a blog post about it. Well, here it is, kind of.

Several years ago, I can't remember when exactly, my friend Jason told me he was going to buy a Mac Mini to see what the whole Mac thing was all about. You see, Jason was my go to guy for all of my Sony Vaio problems (and being a windows machine, there were quite a few). So for him to be jumping ship and telling me that if this Mac thing goes good he's going to forget all about Windows (translation, hope your POS Vaio doesn't give you more problems than you can handle 'cause I won't be there to help you out). He proceeds to buy the base model Mini and falls in love. A month later he's telling me this thing is so awesome that he's willing to go out and buy the souped up model of the Mini to get the best experience out of it. When I hear this I offer to buy his first Mini from him and I get a great deal on a hardly used Mac. I have tasted the Kool-aid and I'm hooked. Shortly after, our Vaio died a horrible Hard Drive crash. (It's a PATA drive and I have pictures on there still that I need to get off and have no idea how without losing a limb, but that's another story.)

I loved my base model G4 Mac Mini. It smoked my work computer. It held it's own against my wife's current HP Laptop that we bought 2 years later. It lived a great life and eventually suffered a hard drive crash of it's own and was retired while I'm out of commission (in a coma). My wife, who insisted on keeping something Windows (hence the HP laptop) went out and bought a new Mac Mini for the family. God love her. Not only was she nursing me back from Ray Liotta's - er - death's door, but she kept the Mac legacy running in the home.

My new Mini is now a couple of generations old but still destroys the HP and does heavy duty work in my house running my digital library of music and videos, storing all of the family photos (except those pesky ones still on the POS Vaio) and being the primary research computer for all of my kids school projects and homework. It feeds my Apple TV and keeps all of my iPods and iPhones synced and running smoothly. Everything is backed up on my Apple Time Capsule. It's a complete Apple/Mac ecosystem in my house with the two exceptions: My work computer and my wife's still chugging HP.

A couple of years after the introduction to the Mac Mini, the first iPhone came out. Jason is an early adopter but I hold off because I'm in the middle of a contract and those first iPhones were damn expensive! After playing around with his iPhone I'm hooked. This is the smoothest running smart phone with the first real Internet interface I had ever seen. My wife had a Samsung BlackJack from AT&T and I hated the Internet experience on it. It was practically unusable. The iPhone's Internet looked exactly like the Internet I was using on my Mac. Perfect. I was hooked again so I stood in line with Jason to buy my iPhone 3G. And my 3Gs. I started passing my old iPhones down to my kids. Everyone in the family now has an iPhone with the exception of my son who for some odd reason said he didn't want one. (He does now, but has to wait until someone upgrades to the iPhone 4s.)

So clearly, long story short, it's Jason's fault I felt so sad on Wednesday. Jason introduced me to all things Apple and Mac and I fell in love.

By the way, Jason also introduced me to the Harry Potter books. They, along with the audio version that I have, have gone on to become the most re-read and re-listened to books in my library. I have all of the movies on DVD (except #7 - which will be corrected when the 2nd one comes out on Blu-Ray).

Jason, damn you for being such an influence on me, or rather - thank you.

R.I.P. Steve Jobs. The greatest innovator of my time. You have changed the way I will forever interact with the world through your inventions. You have helped mold the world that my children see. I hold you in the same regards as Michael Jordan, Wayne Gretzky and Muhammad Ali. May your legacy be immortal.